No justified resentments

The idea of being mean to someone because they’re mean to you feels so unconscious, childish.

Instead of “I’m gonna be mean and ugly to you because you’re mean and ugly to me”, it’s “I’m choosing different.” Don’t become what you hate.

✕

“There are no justified resentments.

You must send blame out of your life for any conditions of your life. Blame has to go. It’s mine, I take responsibility for it. If I think someone else caused it, then I’ve got to wait for someone else to change. And you might wait forever for that. But if I take responsibility for it, I can do something, including move on, which might be the most important thing to do.

At the higher level, where there are no justified resentments, you’re at a place where you’re sending love in response to hate.

If you become steadfast in your abstentions of thoughts of harm directed towards others, all living creatures will cease to feel enmity in your presence.

Reach that place where the only thing you have to send is love, because that’s what’s inside. And that’s the message of our greatest spiritual teachers–that’s all they’ve ever had to give away.

Love is my gift to the world. I fill myself with love, and I send that love out into the world. How others treat me is their path; how I react is mine.”

—Wayne Dyer