Hell is…

feeling victimized, blaming others, taking things personally → you’re hostage to others

not trusting anyone → you isolate and call it safety

not trusting yourself → you outsource your power

not being present → life is happening but you’re not really there or engaged

trying to control things you can’t → you get frustrated with no way out

paralyzing / avoidance-causing perfectionism → ego-driven fear disguised as standards (or as Liz Gilbert described, “I think perfectionism is just fear in fancy shoes and a mink coat, pretending to be elegant when actually it's just terrified. Because underneath that shiny veneer, perfectionism is nothing more that a deep existential angst that says, again and again, 'I am not good enough and I will never be good enough.”)