You have 2 choices:
1) be uncomfortable staying the same, or
2) be uncomfortable leveling up
Staying the same can feel like the easy way out — it’s familiar, and our brains associate familiar with safe. We can also excuse our lack of change by blaming something else, thereby avoiding taking responsibility or action.
But staying the same eventually feels hard too, so we might as well change and make it rewarding!
1) be uncomfortable staying the same, or
2) be uncomfortable leveling up
Staying the same can feel like the easy way out — it’s familiar, and our brains associate familiar with safe. We can also excuse our lack of change by blaming something else, thereby avoiding taking responsibility or action.
But staying the same eventually feels hard too, so we might as well change and make it rewarding!
Find the feeling driving the coping mechanism
Why: Somatic healing helps us feel safe by healing trauma-related stress responses through the body and nervous system regulation (not just big T trauma but the traumas we all have as part of the human experience).
When we don’t know how to do this for ourselves, we turn to coping mechanisms instead—seeking validation, controlling behaviors, people-pleasing, seeking attention, over-giving, over-performing, over-eating, alcohol, drugs, sex, video games, etc.
Creating safety within gets to the root of many struggles—including, for some clients I work with, lifelong eating patterns that aren’t resolved with 1) more nutritional info, 2) custom macro targets, or 3) mindset work.
The best part is that this practice doesn’t ask you to change your thoughts or behaviors, because as you feel safer, your thoughts and behaviors naturally align with your intentions.
Why: Somatic healing helps us feel safe by healing trauma-related stress responses through the body and nervous system regulation (not just big T trauma but the traumas we all have as part of the human experience).
When we don’t know how to do this for ourselves, we turn to coping mechanisms instead—staying busy, seeking validation, controlling behaviors, people-pleasing, seeking attention, over-giving, over-performing, over-eating, alcohol, drugs, sex, video games, etc.
Creating safety within gets to the root of many struggles—including, for some clients I work with, lifelong eating patterns that aren’t resolved with 1) more nutritional info, 2) custom macro targets, or 3) mindset work.
The best part is that this practice doesn’t ask you to change your thoughts or behaviors, because as you feel safer, your thoughts and behaviors begin to naturally align with your intentions.